What’s the story?
I found my passion for knowledge when I was a young girl about 11 or 12 years old trying my best to make sense of the world and to meet the expectations set before me. I could see people with a great deal of knowledge, skill, and desirable traits got what they wanted out of life. I panicked. I stumbled along in life feeling I was trailing behind, until I found the key.
I neither possessed the tools, or skills to uncover the knowledge required to do what interested me. It’s impossible to know what you DON’T know. So, I didn’t have a clue who, or how to ask, research, discover, or design. Unfortunately, conventional education failed miserably at providing me with the RIGHT basic skill set and tool box to achieve the kind of success I envisioned.
Consequently, I was frustrated to learn my parents did NOT know everything! My mother had a limited education and very little idea how to design a path to achievement. I’m not even sure she realized she possessed knowledge and skills she would unknowingly impart. She learned through the generations of female business owners within my family.
One day as we were putting together a new appliance for our home pouring over the owner’s manual, I remember turning to her and asking, “where is the owner’s manual for this life you gave me?” She laughed with such conviction I realized that she too must have confronted the same question in her life!
To me, it wasn’t a joke. I was very worried about what it all meant and how to put a life together. My father came from a family of farmers, generations deep. He graduated from high school and wanted to attend college, but the family farm came first. His reason, according to him, he “liked to eat, and preferably, daily.” No shortage of humor and sarcasm in my father’s household!
He later joined the Navy, and after serving during WWII, returned to the states becoming a salesman, and later an Insurance Adjuster. Who in the heck decides they want to be an Insurance Adjuster when they are envisioning their future?
Like most people with only a general trajectory from high school, he “stirred the pot to see what might surface.” Sufficient planning to facilitate the opportunity geared to his passions in engineering and product design wasn’t a possibility due to circumstances. Seemingly out of reach, he resorted to a job over his passion.
When contemplating my future path, like most individuals I failed to plan for the forces of nature, social discord, and of course Murphy’s Law. Such as life! It’s ever evolving facets changing at different, yet converging levels, thrust every adult into various and at times unwanted experiences.
Human and business development would later surface as my education and independent research interest. Consequently, most individuals don’t always find or accept help looking for that deep seeded interest. It has to surface. The problem, many can’t recognize it on their own, reject or ignore the obvious.
Granted, humans need a measurable level of certainty in an uncertain world. The world is riddled with changing circumstances, expectations, limited availability or accessibility. Of course, the issues related to juggling socio-economic, and discrimination factors which manifest differently at each stage in life guarantees continuous challenges. How does someone without the right tools, manage?
I attribute the feelings of confusion and helplessness to most, if not all, teenagers through young adult age. Truly this feeling can surface at any time in a person’s life when forced to deal with life-changing alterations to their status quo. Many adults eventually develop a way to manage their feelings. Naturally, they never completely escape the resulting outcomes.
I have determined the lack of knowledge and tools to be the cause of angst and rebellion at any age! We are trained from school age through college level that our plans for the day will be laid out before us and we are not required to think about designing our day’s work goals for ourselves. So, as we age, we expect the universe will just deal us whatever is intended to be ours by happenstance!
One day, I went into a bookstore to see what sort of reading material was available to youth. I took photos because I was enraged to see that we are setting our youth up to fail. As parents and society, we present youth with a life of fantasy. We show that we value fiction over actual history, and fantasy over valuable reference.
What I see today’s parents doing? They value peace and quiet, and so appease their children under the guise of love, no matter the damage. They turn to the cheapest and ever available babysitter, TV and video games to pacify their precious little gifts. They fail to instill a proper work ethic and sense of accomplishment as worthy goals. They atone for their own shortcomings with conveniently repeated measures. Then wonder why their prodigy never ventures too far from the sofa.
There I was, staring down the only 3 aisles of books reserved for “teens” and only one column within the entire teen section was non-fiction. Think about this for a minute. Our kids are led around by the nose BY ADULTS pretty much 14 hours a day for the first 18, or more, years of their life!
I completely understand, most parents are too busy attempting to navigate their own rabbit holes. Many times it is the result of our own selfishness and exhaustion brought on by our own personal unending war with adversities, and wear and tear from the constant tide of overlapping responsibilities.
We whisper to ourselves, “anything to keep he/she/them quiet; anything to be SURE he/she/they are safe and not costing us another bill we cannot afford on top of the other bills we struggle to pay on time!”
In the same damaging stroke, teachers assign our kids an insurmountable heap of mostly irrelevant, trivial, or soon to be obsolete information which fails to provide experiential learning which is known to be the most influential type of learning.
Once again, the focus for adults is in keeping teens busy and out of trouble instead of oriented toward personal development and relevant interest based projects geared toward productive outcomes.
Instead, a measure of general knowledge to hold educators accountable in some way is the goal. Bogging down teens with reading authored by educators for the purpose of teaching general topics. YAWN! Similarly, teachers are looking to free up their time to navigate their own challenges at work and home.
Parents are not given any credit or confidence to educate on our own. Not knowing anything different, we hand our pride and joys the latest fantasy in the form of books. We think, thank GOD he or she is reading! The newest movies and music provide the only conduit. So, youth use available coping mechanisms to fight feelings caused by an elusive enemy.
Society has come to expect our teenagers to develop a craving to escape their dismay using many of the same vices they witness adults exploit. Due to their sixth sense for the impending doom, they fight, or so it seems.
Teens are not quite sure what they are grappling with, but they are very aware of the invisible force that will soon be thrust upon them. Then, BOOM! We throw them to the wolves and expect them to be completely knowledgeable, self-sufficient, and financially independent.
Don’t get me wrong, teens do realize we are giving them SOME of what they will need. They are forced to put the pieces together simultaneously feeling around in the dark to figure out EXACTLY what is missing. By osmosis they are to find out where and how to get it! OUR BAD!
I have asked other teaching professionals why the voids exist and they are baffled. Why do you ask? Teachers are taught only to teach the esoteric skills, theoretical, and conceptual material that has little to do with REAL life applications today.
They are required to teach with little flexibility granted to engage in practical applications addressing individualized student interests. LITERALLY! They are not given the chance to challenge their students with questions, but are required to shovel the information in as fast as students can regurgitate it.
When I found there is currently no general reference for an organized method of teaching how to put theory to work, BING! The light bulb switches on over my head, and I decided to teach my kids at home.
At certain points in our life after we slowly managed to stumble into some organized pattern of existence where we are making ends meet, or NOT, and we determine we are okay, we are soon thrust into change with NO CLUE where the drawing board IS let alone how to engage in the figurative stumble once again.
I have worked with individuals or groups ranging from: a) struggling and established entrepreneurs, b) business professionals wishing to expand their knowledge in the area of Human Resource Development (HRD), c) professional and independent educators, d) young people starting their lives from scratch with relatively “0” guidance or those still putting the pieces together “hodge-podge” on their own, e) people displaced by technological innovation, f) transitions from military service to civilian careers, g) women emerging from post-divorce hell, h) or anyone with a lack of documented experience wondering how to adapt. I say this in no UNCERTAIN terms. It’s an ill-reputed system designed produce repeated failures! Let’s FIX IT!
From my complete dissatisfaction with this “Frankensteined” system, I created an independent learning curriculum and coaching platform. It is designed to be applied to any theory-based education conceived to date.
I teach Business and Human Resource Development Professionals, Professional Business Trainers, Coaches, Collaborators (Parents, Advocates, Educators), and students as early as Junior High. I work with individuals or groups. Anyone can benefit no matter their starting point.
My experience comes from educating children through young adults for over 20+ years. Knowing the serious void that exists in our system of education in this country, I was determined to make a difference for my children.
My goal was to provide the benefit of a truly meaningful, practical, independent learning experience. I realized early on was the key to actual learning and retention. They would learn practical skills, knowledge and build favorable traits along the way.
At first, I was nervous! Would the youth entrusted to me through co-ops, workshops, independent projects, coaching, and structured coursework receive everything they would need to carry them where they wanted to go in life?
My answer didn’t come until both my youngest and my oldest tested into required college-level courses at 15 and 16 years of age. Other students receiving my instruction through various outlets called to thank me for the skills that prepared them for college and the workforce.
Finally! I was confident that I stumbled across the key while turning over every stone in an effort to be thorough as I ventured outside the status quo to reach my goals.
I hold degrees and experience in Business Administration, Liberal Arts with an emphasis in Social and Behavioral Science, and Pre-Law. Check!
Let’s get to work!